Once some guy mentioned that when i laugh my mouth looks really weird and now whenever i laugh around people i don’t know 100% i cover my lower face with my hands.
A girl who didn’t like one of my friends told her that her eyes squint different sizes when she smiles, and now whenever she’s happy she look’s down or away.
You’ve gotta be careful with what you say to people, because it might turn their happiness into insecurities.
just a heads up, if i ever weird you out on any level, too friendly, too flirty, anything at all, i encourage you to be very vocal towards me about it to make sure i dont continue to make you uncomfortable. i dont want anyone feeling like im not someone they can trust and be comfortable around.
Normalize vocalizing discomfort.
Last weekend, a guy that at that point I’d known for about 24 hours called me “darling“. I could tell he didn’t mean anything by it, but I (politely) asked that he not do that because I don’t like it. He looked surprised and got a little defensive - “oh, I call all my friends that!“ “Okay, well I’d still rather you didn’t“ “oh well harumph harumph sorry”
whereas the exchange should have gone
“blah blah blah, darling“
“oh please don’t call me that, I don’t care for that“
“oh I’m sorry, I won’t do that“ CONTINUE CONVERSATION
Normalize vocalizing discomfort.
Yep yep yep. I’ve literally had people give me weird looks because I correct them when they try to shorten my name. My own family members don’t call me by any nickname.
I use pet names constantly. If you don’t like it, Please Please tell me!
Please! I’m a friendly person and use lovely, poppet, darling, etc frequently and I never want to make people uncomfortable!
if i make you uncomfortable, for pete’s sake tell me!!
so many of my followers are minors, and i use pet names such as “kiddo, sweetheart, sweet pea, darling, honey, etc” all the time
it is my responsibility to make you feel welcome and safe on my blog, and if anything i do comes off as making you uncomf, then t e l l m e
